I’ve been having the feeling that something is just not right about my life late
ly!
Two days ago, after I finished my shower, I was drying my hair in front of the mirror, when I saw a pair of scissors on the shelf next to me and the craziest idea popped into my mind! I grabbed the scissors and started chopping my long, beautiful, just recently highlighted hair!
After I was done, reality punched its cruel fist at me! What have I done! I knew I was going through one of my famous blackout moments! Cutting my hair was my way of dealing with blues, the hardest types of blues, since I was 17 years old! Every two or 3 years, I get this insane feeling, the need, the urge, to cut my lovely hair! and I start growing it all over again!
I had to sit down for a while, sipping a cup of dark coffee and writing down a list of my life’s recent highlights, some sort of reality check!
1- My marriage: a very happy marriage, so this is not the reason.
2-My home: one of those dream houses, again not the reason.
3- Our family: all are very supportive, and caring.No not it.
4-My health: very well, thanks God!
5- My dreams: most of them came true, the others are on their way!
6-My daughter: An angel! I can’t imagine someone who loves her baby more than me! But since she was born, I haven’t been able to get anything accomplished! It seems as if my life is rotating around this tiny creature! I haven’t had any “ME” time, and If I go out with my husband and leave her with someone, I feel heart-broken as if I have done a terrible act of selfishness and I’m not worthy of being a mother! When she cries and I don’t succeed in comforting her “which happens sometimes” My tears start dropping like the Niagara Falls!
So that’s it! It’s the Evil effect of that horrible baby blues ! And one would think that after 3 months of delivery this won’t happen! After I gave birth to Anna, I was glad not to have the pleasure of getting face to face with the famous baby blues that everyone talks about! but, here it is! a delayed unhappy surprise! And my poor hair paid the price! Why new moms get the baby blues any way? Google once again offered me the answer: “Having a baby is stressful—no matter how much you’ve looked forward to it or how much you love your child. Considering the sleep deprivation, new responsibilities, and lack of time for yourself, it’s no surprise that a lot of new moms feel like they’re on an emotional roller coaster. ” (http://helpguide.org/)
It’s funny how good it felt after I cut my hair! Yes its true I made a mess and I needed to get myself to the nearest hairstylist to clean it up! ” Once you know that I’m a Gemini you’ll not encounter this behavior as weird”. I know it’s just a phase that will fade away, because I’m a healthy young woman with a supportive husband and a loving family, and because I thank God everyday for the blessing of being a mother and having a wonderful baby girl like Anna. Babies grow up in a blink! I remember I used to hear my grandma tell my mom”Be patient, one day you’ll close your eyes and when you open them you’ll notice they have grown! ” My grandma had Ten children, My mom had four, and I’m struggling with this little angle! God bless the previous generations, we are a generation of spoiled mothers I tell you! We women know that, but we keep it a secret from our men! shhhh…
I was caught by surprise when my husband suddenly opened the front door! “Someone give me a hat!!!!! ” I thought to myself! He stood in the entrance staring on what used to be an amazing long hair, and which looks now like a piece of agricultural land which has been harvest in the driest day of the season!
Later that night, I was sipping wine and eating chestnuts by our fire-place with the great man I married, enjoying my new, improved hair cut “After my stylist saved my life off course! Thank you Makram!”
Rana Armoush 
Cutting your hair was a way of showing you are in control. At times with a newborn you feel that every waking moment is controlled by that little being, and you just wanted to have some of you back. And to be practical – short hair with a newborn is easier (I too cut my long hair after my baby was born 🙂 )
I think you’re very right Colline, I did want to feel that I’m still the same woman I was before becoming a mother. but you know one of the things that I grew attached to as a child was my mothers long black hair, I wanted my baby to grow attached to mine as well! But the good thing about hair is that it grows back 🙂 and I really like the new hair cut!
I know that feeling… which doesn’t let us enjoy our time outside the house to the fullest.
You know, I’ve just read a post by stayathomefreelancingmom in which she says: “…take care of myself…. For me that is getting out of the house for a bit by myself. It isn’t always easy to just let go of the kids, but I am doing everyone some good when I do that.” I think she is right! And, that is, definitely, a good way of seeing things.
P.S. I once did the same to my hair; after the shock of doing so, it felt okay 🙂
You’re both absolutely right, and I agree! We Moms need sometime away from the house and the kids for ourselves, it’s still hard for me to leave my baby but I’m gonna give it a shot this week and see how it goes. Well now I feel so much better knowing I’m not the only one who did this to her hair 🙂 Well cheers for us women then!
Your baby is beautiful! she is like a doll! 🙂